你不挺我還要我讓步嗎? - 處女
By Donna
at 2009-10-16T05:36
at 2009-10-16T05:36
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我天秤女,他處女男,
兩人差一歲都快要30歲了,交往快2年。
網路認識。本人處女版常駐版眷。
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最近有在討論關於結婚的事情,
問他幾個問題,
比如:
1.希望幾歲結婚?
2.結婚後住哪裡?
3.將來要買房子嗎?
4.將來想要生小孩嗎?
之類的問題。
然後他就說他沒想這麼多,
不然他想一想,之後再跟我討論。
隔天,他在 MSN 上跟我說,
他想大概34-35左右再結婚,
結婚後住家裡,
省下來的錢就可以買房子或是做投資,
小孩的話,因為是單傳所以至少要一個。
(前面這些,都是我耐著性子一個一個問他,
然後他前前後後慢慢得回來出來的。)
可是,
講到後來實在很火大,
為什麼?!
因為我有一隻長毛貓,
養了5-6年,
牠很乖且結紮了,不亂叫亂抓亂咬,而且很乾淨。
我想我要是嫁了也還是要帶過去。
然後他說:
"怕我爸媽不能接受家裡有貓"
"尤其我爸很會碎念"
"我家沒養過寵物"
"我不知道怎麼幫你講"
"你要有心理準備,要說服我爸媽喔"
總之,他的態度就是一副他不知道怎麼辦,
要我自己想辦法的感覺,
我表示希望他幫我一起面對問題,一起想辦法。
他就說:
那不然送給別人養?
還是給我弟或是好朋友養?
不然養在頂樓? (他們家是老公寓~頂樓是水塔囧)
他說他不想因為這樣搬出去,
怕親戚講閒話,
也不想因為這樣跟父母有什麼衝突。
我聽了很火,覺得他好像都把問題丟給我,
自己好像旁觀者,要我一個人去面對。
當初說好了,
有困難要一起面對想辦法解決,現在卻這樣子。
他覺得我很怪,提這種問題來為難他,
好像我寧願選貓不願意妥協這樣。
說什麼類似 "貓不如人" 的話。
我聽了很生氣,
貓是一個生命不是玩偶,是我的家人,
我要是妥協放棄,那我就是一個無情無義的人,
而且我說搬出去,是說萬一無法順利說服他父母接受貓,
那最後的下下之策,但顯然他不認同。
我跟他說:
今天換作是你嫁去我家,
你就能體會我的感受了!!
你要適應對方家庭的環境與生活習慣,
你要配合對方家庭的作息跟飲食。
然後你帶著你養了5-6年的寵物,
牠就像你的家人陪伴著你,
可是我卻要你把牠送走,
還跟你說 "你要貓留下就自己想辦法"
你做何感想?
(這中間,他都不太回應我,
我甚至覺得他是不是沒在看我打的字。)
我覺得他不能體會我的感受,
他只覺得為了貓搬出去住,
會花很多不必要的錢,
這樣開銷變多以後,
我們婚後的生活會比較沒那麼好。
我說我不介意,是你在介意,
你只是想留在你熟悉的地方,
只是要我為了你放棄些什麼,
但是你有為我做些什麼努力?!
對,你很會保護自己,
每次遇到難題,
你總是這樣,縮進自己的殼,
讓我一個人面對問題。
是我把你寵壞了,
才讓你以為我強大到什麼都可以獨力扛起。
後來我說不下去,
在電腦一頭哭了起來,
跟他說:
"如果現在都不能達成共識"
"還有什麼未來嗎?"
"算了吧!!也許我不是你要的人"
他又開始回我:
"妳不要離開我" 之類的話。
老實說,我不知道該怎麼辦了,
我回他說:
你讓我好好想一想吧!!
過兩天我再跟你連絡。
我一直以為我們能牽手走一輩子,
也一直以我家閃光是處女男為榮。
但現在,我開始懷疑這一切都是幻覺...。
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